Have you ever experienced-- looking at the cloudless night sky but your mind is far somewhere, wandering in a bottomless pit with a bunch of Whys and What ifs.
The tremendous unmanaged, muddled things stretch your breath endlessly without giving any lead to a profound answer. Just the very thoughts of those stir the negative emotions which are challenging to confront in real life because you have kept them just as thoughts (a chaos within), don’t realize that your behavior and action have become the puppets to such maneuvers.
I believe this can be a vague introduction to the topic I am going to discuss. Starting off with the definition--
Self-limiting beliefs are shackles or constraints that we have put on ourselves.
Do I know myself? Part of me says I am confident. But the other one responds, maybe I am not. I have found success, but I doubt-- was that not just some one-time-hit?
Day in day out, I confront unknowns. In each step, I try to realize my emphatic dreams. I keep walking, without any fear (perhaps!). It liberates me. From what?
Yet all I find is the throw-away fragments of turmoil. I don’t know where it all began? It’s like I am going nowhere. Using my decisiveness to deceive me; my abilities; my strength.
So, this is my answer -My mind is not tamed. And my life has become a firework display of stupidity, uncertainty, and ignorance.
Self-worth, such a simple word yet carries the weight of our very existence and proof of our greatness. So, there’s nothing more terrifying for a person to have ill-conceived trickeries on his/her self-worth.
In regards to this, I would like to encapsulate some of the theories.
We always have an inner clash between ideals. The clash between being black or white-- what I am talking about is not any universal morality. It’s about a person’s individualistic feelings. For instance, a winner is prone to think that he will always remain unbeaten. In the same way, a looser tends to fear that he is going to be beaten in every step. It’s kind of irony and an inherent idiocy that you can find in every other person.
Do you think negativity is a problem?
It is a flaw. But some people are just too inclined to this behavior. Though they could easily get cornered but are not necessarily unsuccessful. Many are successful because of the work they put in. They embrace it to its full extent instead of continuously staggering their mind between Whys and What ifs (Like I said before).
However a looser is different, he expels every one of the endeavors and sits tight, waiting for his luck to do the magic. Now really, think about it, where do you belong to as a human?
Here’s an interesting quote from Anthon St. Maarten,
“Never surrender your hopes and dreams to the fateful limitations others have placed on their own lives. The vision of your true destiny does not reside within the blinkered outlook of the naysayers and the doom prophets. Judge not by their words, but accept advice based on the evidence of actual results.
Do not be surprised should you find a complete absence of anything mystical or miraculous in the manifested reality of those who are so eager to advise you. Friends and family who suffer the lack of abundance, joy, love, fulfillment and prosperity in their own lives really have no business imposing their self-limiting beliefs on your reality experience.”
Many of us are influenced by our peers, family, and environment since childhood. That indeed plays a great role in building us but that's not all we are.
For instance, I really take after my father. I have same habits; our taste in fashion, food, and music are very similar. He is my hero, my admiration, and idol ever since I have come to this world. As a child, I used to dream of being someone like him; even wanted to choose the same career as his.
But when I grew up, I understood we’re different in many ways. I took many decisions that he didn’t even dream about. But he understood-- this kid is trying to surpass him and building her own identity.
The overall conclusion--
If you can't defer your identity from the people you grew up around and you decide to take their beliefs with half-baked interest and conviction-- No offense but it is indeed a flaw in your personality.
Another significant point I want to mention here:
The American actor/writer Donald Glover said:
“I just keep losing. I mean, some people just...are supposed to lose? For balance in the universe? I mean, like, are there just some people on earth who...are supposed to be here just to make it easier for the winners?”
And do you think you are one of them?